Gain Self Confidence: Love Yourself First

The first step towards gaining Self-Confidence is “Love Yourself.”

It is important to feel good about yourself first.

You need to believe in yourself and hence love yourself.

It builds an enrooted confidence to reach your targets and goals through best of your performance. It also equips yourself, with full of your energy to face the challenges and problem coming into your way.

If you often feel ashamed and worried about your own presentation or performance without even actually doing it practically, then it means that you are gripped into a state of confusion. This further means that you believe that you are lacking something. This lack is in terms of your love towards self, which may even further lead to self-hatred.

The result of this state of not loving yourself generates anger and agitation in your reflected behavior. It makes you further sad, dis-hearted and disillusioned.

A big factor, which contributes to such kind of mental state wherein you feel lowered for yourself, is when you start comparing yourself with others.

Physical appearance and beauty is the first thing for which people get dis-hearted and lose their zeal to love themselves, while comparing with others.

The situation gets so serious that people subsequently avoid taking selfies, do not participate into group photographs, do not share their pics over any social media etc.

Another feature, which reflects that the person is not into full agreement of loving self, is avoiding public talks or addressing / participating into a group.

This is where an introvert behavior acts at its extreme for that person.

Continuation to such a conditional behavior may subsequently lead to a kind of sinusoidal attribute. It repeats into waves of dis-believe on self into any kind of act and so on.

From the psychological angles, it is a matter of concern, which needs correction for enjoying the true aspects of one’s life.

It is a state of mind when for all your acts and proceedings, you think more about others with a strong internal belief that you are not at all better than others, into the race.

It is surely possible to make yourself adorable to SELF and the way out is to “help-self.”

Next Question arises, is how?

There are several ways and practices to get into love with self.

It needs self-exploration, means truly exploring yourself for all the good things you have. No matter how small, but focus on them and reveal them.

If you are not able to find even a single trait or feature within you, which is good from your eyes – then simply repeat the exercise of finding it again.

This is because it is impossible that anyone of us in this world is without even a single positive or good feature.

Once you find some of the good values within you, which makes you by any means, makes you pleasant, explore it further. Admire it and cherish it for yourself.

This will gradually make you to learn to love yourself and to feel good about yourself.

People who love themselves are the people who reflect happiness all around. They become glad from small-small things and they normally are without much worry since they have confidence on themselves. They know they are capable to manage tough situations. They are into a state of perfection.

They have a higher resilience to face any challenges in the events of their life or personal adversities. It really makes them as a reference for others to follow.

Self-lovers create such a strong form of purified optimism that eludes all the negatives forms of life like depression, stress, anxiety, mental sickness etc. They do not have any kind of obsession with perfection.

Self-love is a state of self-validation. You yourself is validating your own aspects, approaches and acts. Analyzing them for fine-tuning and carrying them further towards perfection.

It makes you confident, cheering, adorable and caring towards others as well. It makes yourself affirmed about yourself.

For sure, it should not be confused with a state of proudness. Self-care is a basic requirement, which each individual should have within self. It is the qualifying trait for a human. Whereas, proudness is the extreme height of a kind of over-confidence into self.

There is also a conceptual difference between self-care and self-love. Self-care is the basic or the first step to approach towards self-love. However, in practicality it could also happen that the care factor is there but love is missing. Care part about yourself keeps you alive and moving, however the love factor makes you to step forward, grow and enjoy your life. It is the move towards a big transformation.

There are certain measures, which may be practiced to make yourself attracted towards self. These may include doing what you like. Again, the first step is to check what really makes you happy.

It could be going out towards nature and exploring its beauty, doing some kind of physical exercises, talking to someone to whom you feel closer, eating or drinking something which you really like, listening to your favorable music, dance or sing a song, etc.

The idea behind is to distract yourself from the exiting heat of self-hatred and negligence, to attract towards self. Such kind of activities will make you focused towards something, which makes you happy.

Loving yourself will gradually lead yourself to love everything, which surrounds you. You will start loving the green trees, the blue sky, the morning rising sun, the cool breeze, the chirping of birds, the sweet sound of far off hymn, the varied colors of nature and then the most beautiful creation of almighty i.e. other human.

When you start loving more and more people, the other people will also reciprocate their love towards you.

Yes, then you will turn out to be an important part of society since you have lot of associations and close contacts who really love you. It generates a bundle of self-confidence and valued existence for yourself into society. Hence, makes yourself to love yourself and your life further…

Start loving yourself from now to become a great fan of YOURSELF.