Whom to LISTEN.. and How MUCH..

Listening is surely important.

It is a well-said statement:

Listening is the most powerful tool to understand and hence resolve any problem.

No doubt, an active listening is something, which makes the things more clear and therefore helps to understand the root of a problem or situation.

Listening hence provides a clear opportunity to resolve it.

Active listening also contributes to better relationships within family, friends, relatives, co-workers or any person in close contact with you etc.

Listening is basically, an art, which makes someone possible to listen to the other person attentively and with full involvement into the formal or informal transmission of words.

However, active listening is really, not so easy.

It substantially needs a lot of practice, patience and perfection to listen and understand the desired message of the other person.

However, in practicality it is just not possible to listen to everything, from everybody and with full attention.

There are certain people who simply waste your time by discussing or addressing things, which is basically of no use or are not associated with you (or critically non-sense).

How much one should listen to someone,

is something which depends on the person ( your closeness to him or her ) and his grey content in the whole communication ( the pace / the content / the interest / the foreseen target etc. )

During the communication, if a stage in between comes, when you feel that the discussion is approaching boredom or is not helping to the desired motto, then the best way is to stop the other persona and ask him for a better explanation or even to repeat.

Otherwise, it leads simply to the mere wastage of time for you.

There are also a class of people generally found, who are simply wasting your time by speaking too much, mostly irrelevant and almost on all topics, may be just to impress upon you – the simplest advice is to avoid such person.

It is actually not rude to leave or surrender such communications, else you will lose your energy and valuable time.

In all, basically it is your wise decision to decide to whom you need to listen and how much. The moment, discussion goes out of desired track – better prefer to close it soon !

However, it is really recommended to listen, understand and judge the value of your discussion with someone deeply,

because that gives you a clear idea about output of such discussion.

An active and good listening should always provide you something concrete.

It could be even listening to a beautiful lyrics of a song but if it provides you comfort and uplifts your mood,

Yes, for sure it should be preferred.

The discussion with someone, who makes you rather uncomfortable and drives you away from your target should be surely avoided in a diplomatic way.

Since, it may affect your existing relationship with the other person.

Therefore, avoid it diplomatically.

Our next decision of the concerned point is to whom we should listen.

The first recommended rule is - do not listen to people who are negative in their thoughts.

Means all those persons come into this category, who always share with you their negativity. They cannot see anything right and the hence see problems into everything surrounding them.

Practically, it is very dangerous to be in contact with these people because they themselves are full of negativity and demotivation.

Their regularly pumped negative thoughts are basically too dangerous for you since they also make you depressed and negative as well.

Hence, the best way is just to avoid them and do not get in contact with or specially not to listen to them.

Another category of person, to whom as per me, should be avoided for listening - are all those who make you confused always.

Whenever they talk to you, they will communicate and pretend to prefer all available options.

For instance, in a Yes or No scenario, these persons will say Yes as well as No in their whole of long communication.

After listening to them for long, you yourself would be in a state, where you cannot take a decision - what to do?

Similarly, if there are more options available they will touch all options and talk for long or even out of the main core topic to make you fully confused.

Better, just avoid this lot of persons.

There is a high value and hence a high result of a rich listening.

Rich means something, which provides you a sort of energy.

Something, with guides you to achieve your targets.

Something, which provides you a comfort.

Something, which contributes to console you.

Something, which drives you to new arenas etc. etc.

In no way, it is advisable to listen to that kind of inflow wherein the results are opposite than those stated above.

Positivity should reflect out of a matured and well received listening.

It should drive to some sort of positive results for you.

Wish you a result oriented listening..